What does it mean to be a good bystander?
A good bystander does not sit by and allow aggressive behavior to continue unaddressed. The goal of being a good bystander is to help the person being targeted, harassed, hurt, or victimized. Our goal is NOT to punish the person being aggressive.
Decide who you want to be.
We make choices everyday about who we want to be. The next time you are in a situation where you witness an unsafe situation, you can make the choice to step in, and potentially alter the course of someone's night.
What can I do to be a good bystander?
Connect: Let the person being targeted know that you support them. Talk with them and get them in touch with other supportive people.
Distract: Change the subject, ask where the bathroom is, or break the line of site between the target and the aggressor. Find a non-confrontational way to take the focus off of the target.
Be Direct: If you feel safe enough, say "What's going on right now is not okay with me", or find a way to directly tell the person being targeted that you support them.
Delegate: Find a bouncer, bartender, friend, or someone else who can help. Delegate the responsibility of intervening to someone who might have more power.
Get Help: Connect the person to resources, or a confidential advocate who can help. If you are afraid to speak up in the moment, talk to them after the fact.
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